Life plans seem pretty daunting to me. I know people who feel stressed and depressed because they don’t have a clear one. There are incredibly rare people who know beyond the shadow of a doubt what they want to do in great detail. If you are one of them, don’t let anything stop you. For the rest of us, I suggest we drop the notion of a life plan altogether.
I often talk about why trying to find what you love is not the best idea. How can you know with so many options? It might not even exist yet. Instead, I recommend making a list of what you know you don’t like. Don’t do those things, and everything else is fair game and moving you closer to the things you love.
But it’s not just about narrowing down and finding the things you most enjoy. It’s about enjoying the process. Try a bunch of stuff. But don’t waste time once you know for sure something makes you unhappy. Not only do you want to drop it because it’s not likely to be your long term sweet spot, but also because it’s not fulfilling right now.
Every day do your best to avoid things that truly make you unhappy and crush your spirit. Every day show up, create, work and do things that are fulfilling, even if (especially if) they are really hard work. You don’t have to plan your life, but you should live it. Fully alive. Fully awake.
If you’re not in a spot where you’re enjoying life right now, why not? Can you change it? Not two or ten year from now, but today. Every day get a little bit closer to only doing things you really enjoy. You’ll end up with a life better than what you would plan if you could.
Isaac Morehouse is president of Praxis.