When you start to find your groove and get a lot of stuff done you will be in high demand. You’ll compile a network of interesting people. You’ll have no shortage of projects. Inevitably, a phenomenal opportunity will be presented to you. One that would be a no-brainer for anyone to jump on. Except you.
One of your defining moments is likely to be the day you say no to an opportunity that almost everyone else would and should say yes to. If you spend your life doing the sensible thing that everyone else is trying to do, and taking every opportunity that others say they’d kill for, at some point you will stop being you. You’ll be the sum of “good” decisions in the aggregate.
This doesn’t mean you should turn down every good thing that comes your way just to be different. You’d probably better take most of them. But there will be rare moments when you know in your gut it’s not for you, even though everything about it seems amazing. A simple but effective test is to let yourself really and fully imagine saying yes. Imagine how it plays out, how it feels, how it challenges you and makes you grow. Then imagine yourself saying no. How does it feel to say it, and how does it feel to live without doing the thing? Which one resonates with you more? Which one aligns with who you are and makes you feel more at peace?
When others would freak out to discover you said no to it, but you know for sure it’s not right for you, you’re probably on the path to your sweet spot.
Isaac Morehouse is president of Praxis.